Suicide

Bob

Bob

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Somebody died very suddenly recently in an apparent suicide.

I didn't know this person well at all, he was somebody I would have a chat to in passing, exchange pleasantries a couple of times a week maybe.

It has affected me deeply, I'm not sure why it has hit me so hard because I barely knew him. I didn't know his name until a couple of days ago.

He always seemed so happy, full of energy and life, he was very young, beginning a career with his whole life ahead of him. It seems so wrong, such a waste, utterly heart breaking.

I saw him two days before he died, I wish I'd taken more time, I wish I'd said something nice to him. I don't know the details, I don't know what was happening in his life but I keep replaying our last encounter, could a small act of kindness have made a difference in this young mans life?

I am writing this because you never know what is happening to a person, how they're feeling, what's going on inside. I never saw this guy without a smile on his face, he always seemed so happy. You could never have guessed the sadness he had inside.

I keep thinking about his family, his friends, his colleagues , the hurt they must be feeling. I'm wondering if he could see the world now without him in it whether he might choose a different path.


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kilmaccumsey

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This is so sad ,we just never know what others are going through ,there is a thing called smiling depression ,taking ones life is on the increase ,especially in males . i also lost an old boyfriend to this and i still think of him all these years later ,he had a young baby .
there is also the staffordshire mental health help line .
0800800 2234 free to call
 
Perrier

Perrier

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Its a misconception that people who are suffering like this will show signs of disparity , its usually the opposite.
In reality , most will try to hide the pain they feel inside with a smile as they dont feel they deserve the help or kindness someone would be willing to provide.

Social stigma comes into play as well.
How many times have you heard ' they need to pull themselves together ' ? ... they simply dont want or need to become a burden on this unforgiving society.

For most , every day is a battle and it can be mentally and physically draining and all we can do is be there for them when they need it most.
 
staffordjas

staffordjas

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A friend of mine always seemed so bubbly , and I was surprised to find out she was about to go into see the doctor about depression as we sat talking in the doctors waiting room. Even then she was having a laugh and a joke with me .

A few weeks later she threw herself off the old Tescos multistorey carpark roof and sadly died. :(

She was the last person you would have thought of having troubles enough to even contemplate ending her life, she did a good job of hiding it and always seemed so happy on the outside.
 
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Sir BoD

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Depression also doesn't have to be about sadness, or indeed, about killing yourself. It can be about complete emptiness. Emotional numbness. However negative a feeling, sadness is at least something that is possible to harness and possibly turn into a positive. It's much more difficult when someone feels totally hollow inside. Just how do you try and tap into that?
 
Tilly

Tilly

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If

If anyone is feeling low

Might I recommend nature

Being away from man made shit and other humans can often help lift the mood .

Walking, if possible, in fields or forests , taking time to find some quiet outdoor space, all good. Excercise is good too. Walking is why we look like we do . Legs werent made for pedals or computers

And music

Peace Out Dudes
 
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