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ChrisLewis
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We're just about to update our listing for winter, so I'll post a new list ASAP which has correct info including the relevant mulled winter cider that we will be offering this winter
littleme
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*sigh
I'm fed up of being the bad guy......smallest child has come home from school saying that she might be asked to a sleep-over tomorrow night....the child who has asked is vile but also very popular - my child spent 2 days crying last week after the other child decided it was my child's turn to be picked on.
I've said no she can't go, so now I'm evil mother from hell ..... if I let her go I know she will have a terrible time (she went to a sleep-over there last year where another girl was picked on & spent the night on the stairs on her own - we didn't find this out till months later) , but, if I don't, will I be alienating her from everyone else?
AAAAGGGGHHHGHGGGHHHHHH.
Any sensible advise is welcome.....
I'm fed up of being the bad guy......smallest child has come home from school saying that she might be asked to a sleep-over tomorrow night....the child who has asked is vile but also very popular - my child spent 2 days crying last week after the other child decided it was my child's turn to be picked on.
I've said no she can't go, so now I'm evil mother from hell ..... if I let her go I know she will have a terrible time (she went to a sleep-over there last year where another girl was picked on & spent the night on the stairs on her own - we didn't find this out till months later) , but, if I don't, will I be alienating her from everyone else?
AAAAGGGGHHHGHGGGHHHHHH.
Any sensible advise is welcome.....
proactive
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Have a stiff drink.
Gramaisc
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Tell her the truth.
Withnail
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^This
Tell her why you don't want her to go - explain why she shouldn't want to go - hope that at the end of it she doesn't want to go.
If that fails, let her go - if it turns to shit, be sure to say 'i told you so'.
But in a nice way.
littleme
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I tried all of this ^ & now she's not speaking to me (between sobbing & still asking why she can't go). I do not understand why on earth she would want to go to someone's house who has been so horrible to her?!
Grrrr kids:
proactive
Enjoying a drop of red.
Sometimes you just have to take the hard decision and accept you're going to be seen as the bad guy, however unfairly. You can't always win with children, you just have to do what experience as a parent tells you is best and live with the short term fall out.I tried all of this ^ & now she's not speaking to me (between sobbing & still asking why she can't go). I do not understand why on earth she would want to go to someone's house who has been so horrible to her?!
Grrrr kids:
arthur
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Or you could let her go and when it goes horribly wrong
I was always very protective when mine were young and tried to shield from horrible kids - but looking back it wouldn't have hurt them to be a street wise - it prepared them for the big wide world full of some horrible people
I was always very protective when mine were young and tried to shield from horrible kids - but looking back it wouldn't have hurt them to be a street wise - it prepared them for the big wide world full of some horrible people
tek-monkey
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Let her make her own decisions, otherwise the blame is always on you if something goes wrong. Most people learn from experience, not advice.
Saying that, hoiw old is she again?
Saying that, hoiw old is she again?
littleme
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10! She's in yr6 but is the youngest in the year.
The girl in question seems to find someone in the class to pick on every few weeks for a few days, last year she had a birthday sleep-over that descended into a 'Lord of the flies' type night, but most of the parents didn't find out until months after...there are only supposed to be daughter & one other girl going tonight, however that makes 3 girls - everyone knows that if you put 3 girls together two of them will gang up on the other one. I have visions of my daughter trying to walk home on her own in the middle of the night....
...the boys were never this difficult!
Going out isn't an option, & we have absolutely no room to have any of her friends stay over.
darben
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@littleme
Very late notice and a might be, sounds like the other child's mum has limited the numbers & others have pulled out and your little one is being used as a standby pal. Would it be easier to say there must be a solid invite before she can go, this has too much potential to go bad if she turns up and isn't meant to be there.
Very late notice and a might be, sounds like the other child's mum has limited the numbers & others have pulled out and your little one is being used as a standby pal. Would it be easier to say there must be a solid invite before she can go, this has too much potential to go bad if she turns up and isn't meant to be there.
Gramaisc
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Gramaisc
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I would recognise that smile anywhere.
staffordjas
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Hope all has calmed down @littleme and she realises that you really are on her side and not wanting her to suffer a horrible night if all goes horribly wrong.10! She's in yr6 but is the youngest in the year.
The girl in question seems to find someone in the class to pick on every few weeks for a few days, last year she had a birthday sleep-over that descended into a 'Lord of the flies' type night, but most of the parents didn't find out until months after...there are only supposed to be daughter & one other girl going tonight, however that makes 3 girls - everyone knows that if you put 3 girls together two of them will gang up on the other one. I have visions of my daughter trying to walk home on her own in the middle of the night....
...the boys were never this difficult!
Going out isn't an option, & we have absolutely no room to have any of her friends stay over.
@littleme - think I may have missed some updates on the new cat while I was away .....how are all the cats getting on together now ? Hope all is better on that front than it was when the new addition first arrived!
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