Manners re: funeral processions

[ddub1984]

Was on the way to my grandads funeral today at Stafford crem, following the hearse & limo down Beaconside, when a new black BMW 5-series estate overtook me to cut me up behind the limo, then overtake the limo & hearse. I wouldnt have acted like that when I was 17, & from the car this was clearly someone old enough to know better.

Is it just me or is that one of the rudest things you can do? We were doing 30, the whole journey took 15 minutes tops. Shame on you whoever you are anyway- I really hope your journey was that important, considering we caught up with you by the Uni roundabout anyway.

For every example of bad behaviour however theres an example of good behaviour- big thumbs up to the police officers standing by the entrance to the police HQ on Weston Road that saw the procession & immediately took their hats off. Was a nice reminder that some people still have manners.

 

[Tinkerbell]

Was on the way to my grandads funeral today at Stafford crem, following the hearse & limo down Beaconside, when a new black BMW 5-series estate overtook me to cut me up behind the limo, then overtake the limo & hearse. I wouldnt have acted like that when I was 17, & from the car this was clearly someone old enough to know better.

Is it just me or is that one of the rudest things you can do? We were doing 30, the whole journey took 15 minutes tops. Shame on you whoever you are anyway- I really hope your journey was that important, considering we caught up with you by the Uni roundabout anyway.

For every example of bad behaviour however theres an example of good behaviour- big thumbs up to the police officers standing by the entrance to the police HQ on Weston Road that saw the procession & immediately took their hats off. Was a nice reminder that some people still have manners.

I totally agree - how rude of the BMW driver - what a complete ignorant ars*h*le

Its a very sad state of affairs when someone cannot show respect. I really cannot see what was so important that they had to overtake a funeral procession

Sorry for your loss

 

[speak65]

I had a similar experience at a distant relative's funeral a year or so ago.
Leaving St Joseph's convent, the Hearse was followed by about 6 cars. After 2 or 3 were let out, the gap was closed by impatient drivers leaving other members of the courtege stranded.

On the way to the cemetery, a man with a couple of children, pointed out the Hearse and courtege to them by pointing at it.
I am sure he meant no offence, but grieving people are not an activity attraction - I was appalled.

Yet a recent funeral of a family friend in London was so different with neighbours shutting curtains and pedestrians on the route, bowing heads.

I think it is just that some folks dont know how to show respect, in this current media age, when grief is only portrayed as a very public show, and when quiet unassuming but heatbreaking grief just goes unnoticed.

 

[Withnail]

Is it just me or is that one of the rudest things you can do?

Not just you - very, very poor form.

 

[basil]

In Barbados motorcycle outriders alway accompany funeral convoys and ensure that an uninerrupted journey takes place

 

[Glam]

I'm sorry about your loss ddub. Hope the bmws head gasket goes when he's miles away from home.
Mum always used close the front curtains if there was a funeral in the village,used say it was something they did in London,nan did the same too.

 

[ddub1984]

Cheers everyone, in a way I feel bad for moaning now, its easy to complain about one person but dozens of other people were respectful and stopped to let us turn etc, I suppose it should be the good people that get a mention, not just the bad people. Just wanted to get it off my chest I guess as I thought it was quite rude. Looking at it more positively, 99% of drivers had very good manners, so theres hope yet.

 

[Jay]

Don't feel bad abot moaning, you're totally justified - Some people have no manners or respect. Interestingly on the roads, it would seem that often (but not always) the more expensive the car, the more discourteous the driver.

 

[John Marwood]

I think I know the driver and can confirm they were wearing a branded Cardiff University Netball Team shirt

 

[Gramaisc]

It's about 'community'. If people in Ireland behaved like people do here in relation to funeral cortéges then they would have to leave the area..

 

[John Marwood]

It's about 'community'. If people in Ireland behaved like people do here in relation to funeral cortéges then they would have to leave the area..

' Leave the area '

Gotcha

 

[Vault_girl]

I once went down a road I thought would come out somewhere it didn't - it ended instead at a cul-de-sac. So I turned around but as I did a a hearse and limo came the other way and stopped outside a house blocking the road so I couldn't get past. I stopped behind the hearse and limo and waited patiently. Cue about 50 people piling out of the house and into the limo and surrounding cars (being the reason the limo and hears had blocked the road - they were all parked everywhere) ALL of them giving me strange looks wondering why I was following their funeral procession and who the heck I was. I was waiting a whole 10 minutes for all the well wishers and mourners to get into their cars and for the hearse and limo to head off (I was right behind them in front of the rest of the group as that was where I'd been sat waiting. As soon as I possibly could I went a different way to escape the procession. I think that was THE most embarrassing moment of my life but I have no idea what I was meant to do since they'd blocked up my only means of escape. I didn't feel it was good form to try and get them to move so I could run off faster.

 

[United57]

On Saturday I was behind a taxi by the market near the traffic crossing from Wilkinson. The taxi stops to let out the fare by the crossing near the entrance to the market. A bit naughty I thought especially as they were nearly on the crossing but it could have been somebody with a mobility problem.

So I waited but a white BMW with the top down over takes and straight across the crossing nearly hitting somebody trying to use the crossing.

 

[Hetairoi]

I blame BMW drivers!

 

[dawnofwar]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss ddub.
I remember when i had only passed my driving test and i watched the first episode of The Osbournes at my now husbands house in Stafford. I was driving back to Rugeley on the same road as Glam mentions, now i know that the speed limit is 60mph on that road but being nervous about driving in the dark (and the deer) i did 40mph.
I had a car sit on my bumper the entire way back to Wolseley Bridge, there was no one else on the road in either direction so it had plenty of oppurtunity to overtake me but didn't.
When it finally went past me on the small dual carriageway that was at Wolseley Bridge i saw that it was a Police Car