Wedding Presents....Cash Gifts

[cookie_monster]

im going to 2 weddings this month and both couples have asked for cash towards their honeymoons as they already live together and have all the housey things they need.

i have no objection to this, but how much it is deemed 'right' to give? is there a norm?

bearing in mind that im not having a holiday this year (or any year for the foreseeable future!)...how much should i write my cheques for?


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[Gramaisc]

What would you have bought them, if you had got them an item as a present? How about as much as that would have cost?..

 

[Timeflies]

Are you going to the whole wedding or just the night do? If its the whole wedding I normally go for £50 quid.... if not then it depends of the quality of the buffett they provide!!

 

[highguyuk]

It all depends on your relationship to them, if your going all day or the evening and how much you can afford.

I went to a wedding a couple of weeks back and put £20 in the card. For them and me that was a good amount. If she was my daughter, she'd probably have been a bit disappointed with £20 but as a friend that was alrite!

 

[Trumpet]

I went to a friend's wedding a couple of years ago and the couple had also asked for honeymoon cash, in this instance they had a box on the top table labelled 'Beer & drugs money' which every one was able to drop cash into. In this case I dropped £20 in which seemed about right.
Weird do though, all guests were given a raffle ticket on arrival for a free draw, among the prizes was a DVD player, a decent quality tool kit, several bottles of spirits etc.

EDIT: Just remembered all the tables had large bowls of assorted Haribo sweets and Freddo choc frogs on them! Like I said weird.

 

[ToriRat]

The last two weddings we went to we just couldnt afford to give anything. But if we could have done it would prob have been about £20ish

 

[My Name is URL]

Are you coming to my wedding cookie_monster... this is exactly what we have done.

As above, I think if you know or have an idea what present you might have got them had you gone down that route, the equivalent cash sum is fair enough.

 

[Gramaisc]

Make an assessment of how much you expect the food, drink and enetertainment to be worth and stick a couple of quid on top.

 

[Vault_girl]

I have a friend who, though was not very impressed with the idea of giving money instead of a gift did give them money but made it into a present as well - she decorated some of those decorative twigs with silver ribbon etc and attached a load of £5 notes to it (to the amount she wished to give them) so it was a pretty money tree.
I thought this was a wonderful idea as it means you still give the couple a "gift" as well as money, which, lets face it with pre-living together couples is going to be far more useful to them than traditional wedding gifts.

I thought a nice idea would be to ask for gifts which can be used at the wedding by the guests - things like those tea light balloons to be let off at night and party poppers etc so people get to spend money on helping the couple make their special day more enjoyable for the guests. Might get less grumbling than asking for money instead.

 

[My Name is URL]

Make an assessment of how much you expect the food, drink and enetertainment to be worth and stick a couple of quid on top.

I always used to give £20 - £30 as wedding with what you suggest in mind... then I realised how bloody expensive weddings are after paying for my own.... even a basic buffet at the main wedding venues is £25 per head (which is ridiculous but hey ho, you only get married twice )

 

[Gramaisc]

Presenting the money in a decorative form is traditional in Kashmir. Perhaps you could wear it as headgear?..

 

[cookie_monster]

Are you coming to my wedding cookie_monster... this is exactly what we have done.

nope....why, is that an invite?

ones in london this weekend and is costing an arm and a leg in transport and accommodation and the other is in sheffield which will be a much more affordable affair.

thanks for the advice folks, its a bit of new one on me.


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[tek-monkey]

Crap, you just reminded me I have one in September thats gonna cost a fortune too. Bah!

 

[Trumpet]

Wouldn't life be easier if we didn't have weddings.

 

[Gramaisc]

People do seem to make a meal of it (!) these days. It should be like MOT tests - you get three years from new and then you ( both ) have to renew annually or it lapses. Do it on-line, no pratting about - simple.

 

[highguyuk]

I've just had an idea, which I wish I'd done!

If the money is "for the honeymoon", as a guest I want it spending on the honeymoon! So...find out where they are going and give them the money in the desired foreign currency! =)

 

[Lunar Scorpion]

im going to 2 weddings this month and both couples have asked for cash towards their honeymoons as they already live together and have all the housey things they need.

i have no objection to this, but how much it is deemed 'right' to give? is there a norm?

bearing in mind that im not having a holiday this year (or any year for the foreseeable future!)...how much should i write my cheques for?


x

Say you're saving up for your own holiday and don't give them anything!

 

[Trumpet]

Last one I went to was a male gay couple, one of the fathers had a right face on all day. He was just not a happy chappy at all. Complete waste of money IMHO. Best bit was a group of us in the bar singing 'Day trip to Bangor' on helium. Oh yes, and the cock shaped confetti.

 

[Lunar Scorpion]

Last one I went to was a male gay couple, one of the fathers had a right face on all day. He was just not a happy chappy at all. Complete waste of money IMHO. Best bit was a group of us in the bar singing 'Day trip to Bangor' on helium. Oh yes, and the cock shaped confetti.

Brilliant! It's given me a few ideas for if I manage to find someone who can stand my company for longer than a few hours...

 

[Gramaisc]

Last one I went to was a male gay couple, one of the fathers had a right face on all day. He was just not a happy chappy at all. Complete waste of money IMHO. Best bit was a group of us in the bar singing 'Day trip to Bangor' on helium. Oh yes, and the cock shaped confetti.

Brilliant! It's given me a few ideas for if I manage to find someone who can stand my company for longer than a few hours...

Shoes is almost snuggling up to you these days. I would definitely cough up a twenty for that wedding...