Mundane facts about your day: Part Deux.

[staffordjas]

Try the exit button first, if that doesnt resolve it, select Source button and then TV from the sources.
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Thanks @PeterD

Old telly plugged back in this morning , and new 'monster that's given me nightmares all night' has now been plugged in on dining room table just to watch stuff other than normal TV when son comes round..

Son has been wanting to buy us a big smart TV for xmas for ages , but told him we didn't want one. So now ex-GF left this one behind he's trying to convince us it's a good idea....
(she suddenly wanted him to give house, good new job & everything here to move over to Portugal straight away to live after a holiday visiting family . Not practical ,so off she's toddled back to live with her parents. )

 

[PeterD]

Thanks @PeterD

Old telly plugged back in this morning , and new 'monster that's given me nightmares all night' has now been plugged in on dining room table just to watch stuff other than normal TV when son comes round..

Son has been wanting to buy us a big smart TV for xmas for ages , but told him we didn't want one. So now ex-GF left this one behind he's trying to convince us it's a good idea....
(she suddenly wanted him to give house, job & everything here to move over to Portugal straight away to live after a holiday visiting family . Not practical ,so off she's toddled back to live with her parents. )

My wife knows how to get to Gardeners World on iPlayer, and thats it, as I am away at the end of the month she has asked for written instructions on how to get to other non telly things, and how to search for them.

 

[staffordjas]

My wife knows how to get to Gardeners World on iPlayer, and thats it, as I am away at the end of the month she has asked for written instructions on how to get to other non telly things, and how to search for them.

I'm going to have to get most impatient son in the world (he can't understand why I have to write things down with pen and paper..."It's easy, just do it and remember it mum" ) to sit for hours while I write down what I want to get into step by step.

Brings back memories of the house move where everything had to be filled in and scanned & returned to Solicitors & surveyors etc over the internet hundreds of times . Ended up driving to Worcester several times for him to help, wrote it down , then next document it didn't allow it done that way, so yet another 120 mile trip down ther motorway as I couldn't follow his instructions over the phone. (My "The squiggly button?" etc got a few ) Ended up sending the needed passport photos to estate agent to her personal phone by whattsapp , as I couldn't scan good enough on my phone. After hours of trying to get a good enough photo with them stuck down with blu-tack to a place mat to get them non-shiny enough , they finally accepted that

God help us when the car needs changing and the only cars around are 'smart' ones

 

[Lucy]

There may be some tech drop in surgeries at your local library, probably worth having a look.

 

[tek-monkey]

(she suddenly wanted him to give house, good new job & everything here to move over to Portugal straight away to live after a holiday visiting family . Not practical ,so off she's toddled back to live with her parents. )

Guessing homesick? My wife is feeling it a lot, used to be away all the time but after her mum died during covid and seeing the state of her dad she would be happier back there. I'm not averse to trying it as long as we don't have to sell the house here, so I can frequently pop back with Eric to see my family and still have a home base. Well, that and the fact if I sold we'd probably have another mental price hike and I'd never get back on the ladder! I could buy a very nice place in Latvia for what mine is worth but I feel it would be a one way trip, and I'm not ready for that.

 

[proactive]

most impatient son in the world

From what you've written about the number of times he's had to come to the rescue, over a variety of things over the years, I'd say that's a tad harsh.

 

[Thehooperman]

Guessing homesick? My wife is feeling it a lot, used to be away all the time but after her mum died during covid and seeing the state of her dad she would be happier back there. I'm not averse to trying it as long as we don't have to sell the house here, so I can frequently pop back with Eric to see my family and still have a home base. Well, that and the fact if I sold we'd probably have another mental price hike and I'd never get back on the ladder! I could buy a very nice place in Latvia for what mine is worth but I feel it would be a one way trip, and I'm not ready for that.

Not to mention coming back to go to the Superbikes and Manics gigs

 

[littleme]

The birds have it in for me today, blue tits bashing away at my landing window, & a heron just swooped down at me on Aldi car park!

 

[proactive]

The birds have it in for me today, blue tits bashing away at my landing window, & a heron just swooped down at me on Aldi car park!

 

[tek-monkey]

Not to mention coming back to go to the Superbikes and Manics gigs

The flights make it a slightly longer trip but I'll be there!

 

[staffordjas]

Guessing homesick? My wife is feeling it a lot, used to be away all the time but after her mum died during covid and seeing the state of her dad she would be happier back there. I'm not averse to trying it as long as we don't have to sell the house here, so I can frequently pop back with Eric to see my family and still have a home base. Well, that and the fact if I sold we'd probably have another mental price hike and I'd never get back on the ladder! I could buy a very nice place in Latvia for what mine is worth but I feel it would be a one way trip, and I'm not ready for that.

She's been over here for 5 years. With son 2 years and actually moved in with big plans. Hardly ever went back home to Portugal. Then once they'd been over there for a fortnights holiday recently meeting all the big family who all loved him, then returning to see her parents on her own for a holiday , her parents told her she must buy her return ticket for less than a fortnight after she returned to UK and he should follow.

Rents and apartments/houses are expensive over there and wages low. Don't think his money would have lasted long with both of them not earning.
In the mean time the 2 massive boxes that she paid £100 to be sent back by DHL have been refused by Lisbon customs and returned to his house. He's now having to arrange all the paperwork with her for it all to be collected & resent back again and hope not refused yet again.

Probably , but then immediately regretted her decision before she'd even left on the plane. She's been over here for 5 years. With son 2 years and actually moved in with big plans. Hardly ever went back home to Portugal. Then once they'd been over there for a fortnights holiday recently meeting all the big family who all loved him, then returning to see her parents on her own for a holiday , her parents told her she must buy her return ticket for less than a fortnight after she returned to UK and he should follow.

Rents and apartments/houses are expensive over there and wages low. Don't think his money would have lasted long with both of them not earning.
In the mean time the 2 massive boxes that she paid £100 to be sent back by DHL have been refused by Lisbon customs and returned to his house. He's now having to arrange all the paperwork with her for it all to be collected & resent back again and hope not refused yet again.

Cheeky sod wanted him to sell her telly for her & send her the money..... if she wants it she can come and get it from here (if it hasn't been thrown at the wall by then . )

 

[Gramaisc]

My kettle has just blown up - taking the whole house supply with it.

It appears to be a terminal failure, but I can hardly complain, as it was £5 new about fifteen years ago.

I see that I can get a very similar thing for eight quid now, so I will venture out for one shortly.

I am also astounded at just how much you can pay for a kettle - I have bought cars for less than some of the really posh ones!

 

[tek-monkey]

Probably , but then immediately regretted her decision before she'd even left on the plane. She's been over here for 5 years. With son 2 years and actually moved in with big plans. Hardly ever went back home to Portugal. Then once they'd been over there for a fortnights holiday recently meeting all the big family who all loved him, then returning to see her parents on her own for a holiday , her parents told her she must buy her return ticket for less than a fortnight after she returned to UK and he should follow.

Rents and apartments/houses are expensive over there and wages low. Don't think his money would have lasted long with both of them not earning.
In the mean time the 2 massive boxes that she paid £100 to be sent back by DHL have been refused by Lisbon customs and returned to his house. He's now having to arrange all the paperwork with her for it all to be collected & resent back again and hope not refused yet again.

Cheeky sod wanted him to sell her telly for her & send her the money..... if she wants it she can come and get it from here (if it hasn't been thrown at the wall by then . )

My wife has been in the UK seven years, we've been together nearly 4 of those. Before that she was in Ireland, then Paris before that, she's hardly spent time at home at all really as went to Norway at 18 at lived in Japan for a while too. Family is a funny thing though, it drags you back in a way jobs and friends can't. I left stafford for good twice so far!

As I said above, I'm not ready to move forever, because of family. Think of it this way, if son had decided to follow her would you expect that to permanently rule out him ever coming back home? The world is a much smaller place than ever before, my aunt pops over to Portugal just to babysit her grandkids!

Basically both have to decide if what they're giving up to be together is worth it, and tbh family is the only viable reason to me. If the job or house was more important than the relationship then best to call it quits now rather than drag it out as it isnt going to end well. Not that I think she has any right to tell him to move with her, but likewise he has no right to ask her not to go. Family trumps everything else in my eyes, even when they annoy you!

Plus the uk has really gone to shit lately, and many think its the fault of the immigrants. It'll make home even more appealing.

 

[staffordjas]

My wife has been in the UK seven years, we've been together nearly 4 of those. Before that she was in Ireland, then Paris before that, she's hardly spent time at home at all really as went to Norway at 18 at lived in Japan for a while too. Family is a funny thing though, it drags you back in a way jobs and friends can't. I left stafford for good twice so far!

As I said above, I'm not ready to move forever, because of family. Think of it this way, if son had decided to follow her would you expect that to permanently rule out him ever coming back home? The world is a much smaller place than ever before, my aunt pops over to Portugal just to babysit her grandkids!

Basically both have to decide if what they're giving up to be together is worth it, and tbh family is the only viable reason to me. If the job or house was more important than the relationship then best to call it quits now rather than drag it out as it isnt going to end well. Not that I think she has any right to tell him to move with her, but likewise he has no right to ask her not to go. Family trumps everything else in my eyes, even when they annoy you!

Plus the uk has really gone to shit lately, and many think its the fault of the immigrants. It'll make home even more appealing.

He was absolutely devastated , she regretted it as soon as she departed , but seems the parents have a big sway in what she does and made her buy the return ticket over there for 12 days after her return back here .
When he'd waved her off on holiday the fortnight before there was no hint of wanting to live over there. She'd insisted all along she wanted to stay over here. All fortnight she'd been messaging saying looking forwards to her return . Then WHAM! Shock announcement the day before she was due home. (She'd always insisted she wanted to stay here , big plans to eventually have family and buy a bigger house between them. Buying stuff for his house between them to make it her home as well.)

Then after 12 days living back here normally with him whilst working her notice, she was gone! All happened so quick !

 

[tek-monkey]

He was absolutely devastated , she regretted it as soon as she departed , but seems the parents have a big sway in what she does and made her buy the return ticket over there for 12 days after her return back here .
When he'd waved her off on holiday the fortnight before there was no hint of wanting to live over there. She'd insisted all along she wanted to stay over here. All fortnight she'd been messaging saying looking forwards to her return . Then WHAM! Shock announcement the day before she was due home. (She'd always insisted she wanted to stay here , big plans to eventually have family and buy a bigger house between them. Buying stuff for his house between them to make it her home as well.)

Then after 12 days living back here normally with him whilst working her notice, she was gone! All happened so quick !

Does sound weird, but the Portuguese are much more family oriented than brits so they will likely hold more sway than you do over your son. I find it odd though that she was told to do it, which does make me wonder what conversations she'd had with them about her life here and if anything significant is happening there. In the end though there's nothing you can do, she wants to be back in Portugal and your son doesn't want to follow, so it's break up time.

As you've probably guessed this is something I've been pondering myself a lot lately, I'm lucky in that we have a small mortgage left and I can work from home (my employer is fully supportive of me applying for residency). My wife is having real trouble finding work in the UK, at least any that would pay for the childcare we'd then need, so our decision to make there our base will be dependent to a large extent on if she finds a job there. While her dad still needs help though there is no option but to ensure that we help him. Latvia is not a place I'd have necessarily chosen to go and live if I was leaving the UK, funnily enough Portugal is top of my list!

 

[proactive]

He was absolutely devastated , she regretted it as soon as she departed , but seems the parents have a big sway in what she does and made her buy the return ticket over there for 12 days after her return back here .
When he'd waved her off on holiday the fortnight before there was no hint of wanting to live over there. She'd insisted all along she wanted to stay over here. All fortnight she'd been messaging saying looking forwards to her return . Then WHAM! Shock announcement the day before she was due home. (She'd always insisted she wanted to stay here , big plans to eventually have family and buy a bigger house between them. Buying stuff for his house between them to make it her home as well.)

Then after 12 days living back here normally with him whilst working her notice, she was gone! All happened so quick !

He's best shot of her, frankly. I expect, in time, he'll see it that way himself.

 

[staffordjas]

He's best shot of her, frankly. I expect, in time, he'll see it that way himself.

That's what I think as well. He's just lonely at the moment & she's still constantly in touch wanting to chit chat as though nothings happened & she's on a long holiday.(whats the password for this etc).

I didn't see her when she came back for those 12 days. My walking group passed his house 5 minutes before her taxi to the station arrived apparently( his neighbour messaged me). My mates were on pins incase she came out, thinking I'd be running across & lamping her one .

Right , off to my aqua fit workout with weights. . 6lbs more off and I'd have lost 3 stone since starting in Feb.

 

[staffordjas]

Even though I dashed on ahead through the streets of Worcester , walking quicker than hubby,with my brolly , still sitting with soaked legs in King Charles Pub. Absolutely horrendous weather!

 

[Trumpet]

sitting with soaked legs in King Charles Pub.

I've heard that you can get special pants for that.

 

[Theresa Green]

Even though I dashed on ahead through the streets of Worcester , walking quicker than hubby,with my brolly , still sitting with soaked legs in King Charles Pub. Absolutely horrendous weather!

It never rains in Friar Park