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Exactly. There are very few hard & fast rules here at Stafford Forum; I like to think we are all capable of policing ourselves and maintaining an environment that everyone is happy with. I'd rather not have a 42 page list of Terms & Conditions, clarifying every little point and scenario!
tek-monkey
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I think the problem is that, until being a woman was mentioned and then the anonymity thing followed it, I had no idea they didn't want it to be known they were female. The fact that they'd outed themselves previously made me think that was a fair comment, everything after may not be but at that point bringing up anonymity seemed very odd indeed.
I am far from anonymous on here, but this isn't a place I feel I need to be. There are 'other' places where I am much more careful!
I am far from anonymous on here, but this isn't a place I feel I need to be. There are 'other' places where I am much more careful!
Carole
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Exactly. There are very few hard & fast rules here at Stafford Forum; I like to think we are all capable of policing ourselves and maintaining an environment that everyone is happy with. I'd rather not have a 42 page list of Terms & Conditions,
I personally think that most of us do the right thing in terms of politeness.
However you haven't really answered my question. @Admin
If someone refers to themselves as either female or male (which the person that complained did) are we then as a group never permitted to refer to that persons gender in case at some point in the future they change their mind?
Are we not allowed to refers to ANYONES gender, but must always use he/she when mentioning someone?
Because like @tek-monkey says, that person had already outed themselves so I dont think saying that someone is female when they actually are is being rude.
Whilst I haven't answered it, I have addressed it:
Exactly. There are very few hard & fast rules here at Stafford Forum; I like to think we are all capable of policing ourselves and maintaining an environment that everyone is happy with. I'd rather not have a 42 page list of Terms & Conditions, clarifying every little point and scenario!
I don't think any member in particular in this discussion actually has a problem with whatever pronouns you choose to use when addressing them. @kyoto49 has made a grand total of 1 comment, which simply reminded you of every member's right to anonymity (presumably because the discussion was veering down a "Does anyone know them in real life?" path); they didn't specifically mention gender, or their desire for it not to be mentioned, so I do feel the point is being laboured somewhat.
If it matters, when I am posting I will use "he" if I assume the person is male and "she" if I assume the person is female, rightly or wrongly. If I am corrected, great. If I am not, then that person clearly cares as much as most people about whether such things matter.
tek-monkey
wanna see my snake?
It's the Internet, I still assume everyone is a bloke unless they say otherwise. And even then..... 
Laurie61
Well-Known Forumite
As anticipated, the minaret is a bit less minarettish than the extractor vent on the back of the chippy.
The blackbird seems keen on it - though, he was probably not issuing a call to prayer - more of a call to clear off out of my patch, I suspect.
They may just be being cautions, large towers can attract all sorts of trouble.